I’m here, for now.

February 23, 2014

Hi guys. It’s me.

I’ve been thinking about how this would go and what I would say to you at this moment for months now. I’d form a few sentences and then find myself rambling and scrap the whole thing. This went on and on as I’d dry my hair at night, as I’d fall asleep, as I’d attempt to watch American Idol. But nothing seemed right.

I owe you an explanation. I know that. I need to tell you where I’ve been. Why I left you hanging. But the answer isn’t as simple as I’d like it to be.

I started this blog on July 29th, 2009. The post was titled “I thought breast pumps were shoes, truth”. And now I just spent the better part of 2013 exclusively pumping for my second child. So that should give you a pretty good picture of how much life has changed in almost 5 years.

I’m a mom to two kids. And those two kids are my air and stars and sunshine and gummy bears. And as 2014 is taking shape, I’m finally starting to see a small glimmer of an adult life creeping back in as well. A small part of me that includes wine, dates, shopping, friends and DVR. It’s a happy little sparkle that can cozy right up next to my gummy bears.

However, getting to this point has been a tough road. We haven’t had the easiest of paths. We’ve faced a number of challenges as all parents do. We all choose to handle these challenges differently. To add to our challenges, I’ve struggled with anxiety for the better part of my life. I was the kid in kindergarten throwing up before school because I was too nervous for show and tell. Now, as a mother, my anxiety showed it’s ugly little face again. And it’s been a challenge to balance the natural worry that we all feel for our kids with unnatural levels of anxiety.

As I’ve shared our stories with moms that I meet at school, or elsewhere, the one common thread that I find is that almost all of us feel like we’re not doing a good enough job. We all worry about our inadequacies day in and day out. I was talking to a very cool, “with it” mom of 3 kids who said she battles guilt every day that she just isn’t doing it right. Or that it just isn’t enough. And I could totally relate. We all can.

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What do I buy for a baby who knows nothing of Christmas, a big man and a complainy mom?

December 13, 2013
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guys...WANA. Where do I begin. It’s been awesome. I’ve felt very close to it this year. I’m amazed at everyone’s selflessness. It’s really awesome to see. We have such wonderful success stories that I can’t wait to share with you in our recap post.

I need you all to know though that this year’s WANA will end on the 23rd. WANA will be back next year. Great work everyone and for those of you who have received help and are comfortable doing so, please send me pictures and I’ll post them in the recap. Success stories without pictures are welcome too.

Please keep checking though. I’ll continue to post those needs who haven’t been met yet.


I’m going to wrap up our what-the-f-do-i-get-this-person for said holiday, series in one post. Why? Because Ruby is a baby and knows nothing of Christmas. I wish someone smacked me and told me that when G had just turned one. Parents, save your money. Seriously. And B and I? We don’t want or need much. Well, ok I want everything always. But we don’t need much. But I’m here to help and a gift list you shall receive.

**the pictures are not the links, the links are in the body of the text in orange***

Let’s start with my little red jewel, Miss Ruby.

12 month gifts

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Stuff G Likes: Holiday Edition

December 3, 2013

First the real realness. You guys are blowing WANA out of the water this year. I will help in any way I can. But as I check comments every night, I am always so proud to host this here on this little dumb website that has mspaint drawings of nonsense and penguins.

I always always get emails and facebook messages asking about what I’m into/G’s into/Ruby likes/ B likes. A quick answer is G is into everything. Ruby is into throwing. B is into nothing. And no one really asks me what I like.

But I’ll expand. This post is dedicated to the G Train. I have done a LOT of research on this one you guys. Mostly because I will have to live with this shit in my house for at least a year. His birthday is a few weeks before Christmas so I need to be on top of this. I researched gifts for the 3-4 year old that are fun, creative, promote awesome and will turn my child into a rockstar who can one day financially support his mother’s online shopping habit.

But also just some trucks.

Ok here is G’s Christmas list as dictated by mom. This will probably only last one more year. The dictating that is. Well, it’s going away already. He told me his NUMBER one request from Santa is a Crack Breaker. Oh you don’t know what that is? It’s THIS:



no problem.

Back to real life.

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A brief WANA update and weird picture.

December 2, 2013
Wana 3.0

GUYS. I’m so happy. I’m so proud of everyone. I feel like my heart lives on a rainbow made of tiny fairies made of glitter and smiles.

wana fairies

Ok, admittedly, I wasn’t all in last year’s WANA. To be fair though, I just had a baby. This year, no baby. And I’ve had the ability to comb through the WANA posts every single night. I’ve had the ability to weed out a little bit of shadiness and notify all parties before things got ugly. And I’ve had the ability to connect people who may not have found help otherwise. And every night that I sit down to do this, I’m just floored.

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WANA 3.0 is here.

November 29, 2013
wana fairies


The comments are getting to be overwhelming, I know. Many of you are having a hard time finding your original post. This will make it a little easier.

Click on the post to open up all the comments (so they all appear below)

use CNTRL+F and you’ll see a search box open in your screen.

Type in the name you used to post your need. For example if you’re searching for Michelle, it will show you all of the times “michelle” is said on the page.

Click through until you find your own.

If you can’t get a hold of someone that you are communicating with, email me at modgblog at gmail dot com with the original comment and I can look up an email address.

Thanks guys!

Here we are guys. Welcome to WANA version 3.0. A friendlier, happier, positive WANA.

Wana 3.0

WANA started when I feeling particularly assholey one year. To my surprise, I became extremely less assholey when we decided to give a gift card to a reader who seemed like she needed some help (without asking for it). I thought that feeling could benefit everyone. And it did. And it was awesome.

But for those of you who aren’t aware, WANA 3.0 almost didn’t happen. It grew to a level that I couldn’t manage and there were a lot of shade balls present. This year it’s not happening. Well, I’m going to do the best that I can.

WANA started as a way to put our guard down and just remember that we are all people who can help other people. It wasn’t as much about what we were giving but just about the fact that there are people out there who are good and who want to help. Strangers giving and accepting help from other strangers was the spirit of WANA. The spirit of WANA is not begging for a new ipad and complaining about someone else getting more help than you did.

So with that being said, I’ve compiled a small team to help be my eyes. Please, if you have asked for help and posted a need here, do not post again. I have the ability to check for duplicate entries even if a different name and email is used. I will delete duplicates.

Now that the yuck is out of the way, let’s talk about the awesome.

I really want to bring the awesome back to WANA this year. So I’m asking you to please be honest. Please be genuine. Please come here with goodness, acceptance and truth. And for those looking to give, thank you. And please remember, there will always be the bad with the good. But it doesn’t make your good any less good. If we stop giving because of the negative in this world, no one benefits. I’m no angel myself and when someone is shitty, I want to sometimes set them on fire. But I’m trying to learn that it’s not my job to teach them a lesson. Life will do that for them. Or the universe. Or Santa. He has a list you know.

A few things I’d like you to read before posting. Trust me, it will make everything go smoothly for everyone.

************How to ask for help**********

  1. Post a comment below. Your name can be anonymous if you’d like. The field for email address only shows to me. I’d prefer that be your actual email address in case I need to reach you.
  2. In your comment at the top, please post just like this : ***IN NEED*** that makes your comment stand out as a need that someone can reply to with help
  3. Please include in your comment a way to reach you. Post your email address as: mary AT gmail DOT com to prevent spam. If you’d like to, open a new email address just for WANA to stay truly anonymous.
  4. You’ll do best to leave open ended requests. i.e. don’t ask for a check for 500 dollars. People were helped much more with toys for their kids, warm clothes, gift cards, etc..

*************How to help***********

  1. Reply to an **IN NEED** comment with whatever you’d like to offer.
  2. I HIGHLY recommend that if you need to provide an email address, create a new one just for the purposes of WANA.
  3. If you’ve offered help and you see that this person has later received MANY offers, I just suggest asking the individual off line if it’s ok for you to help someone else, since they seem to be taken care of.
  4. Find a need that speaks to you. If you aren’t comfortable giving away a gift card, find someone looking for used clothes or toys. I know it’s harder to ship, but it’s 99.9% honest.
  5. Please do not post any **TO GIVE**. It becomes much too confusing to match anyone up.
  6. Gift cards are easy. If you’d rather go that route, get an email address and start a dialogue before you offer anything. Find out about their family and their need. And then trust your gut. once pair up with someone in need, I can’t help you. It’s really an act of good faith. Think of it like finding a pen pal
  7. Set expectations up front. Many people felt bad that they were never “thanked” by the person who received the gift. I do understand that feeling. But it’s not a requirement when you’re given charity. So if you’d like a picture, or a thank you, or a follow up. Ask for it up front.


This is a child who benefited from WANA the first year. Please remember that this is what it’s about.

It’s also about amazing moustaches.

The blog will continue on throughout the  month, but I will link to the post up top in the ad section. Good luck and GO WANA.

Thanks again to our WANA sponsor this year Little Hipsqueaks. The cutest best baby clothes on this here planet.





***WANA UPDATE***  WANA ENDING DECEMBER 23RD**** The comments are getting to be overwhelming, I know. Many of you are…

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