How I realized that being the best mother sometimes has nothing to do with being a mother

When I was pregnant with G and we were frantically trying to figure out our budget for our family and a new baby and a J.Crew habit, the discussion of the D word came up.

Dickwad.

No not that D word. That would be absurd.

Daycare. (duh duh duuuuh …scary music).

2 years ago, at the mere mention of the word, I started crying. See, despite my outward bitchiness, my level of empathy for babies, animals and kids who get bullied, is like off the charts. Last weekend I ran upstairs in tears when my family decided to watch Planet of the Apes. THEY WERE GOING TO KILL A BABY APE.

Anyway, so the thought of leaving my baby in the hands of perfectly capable strangers was unthinkable. What if my baby thinks that I abandoned him? What if they leave him in a crib all day? What if they dress him up like Hello Kitty and post it to YouTube? So we made it work and I stayed home with G for 16 months.

And here we are 16 months later. And G is running and climbing and playing and hugging and kicking and dancing and ready for some social time. And just as that thought entered my brain, an amazing opportunity came my way.

Starting in May, I will be a contributing writer at Babble.com. I’ll be writing for them 3 times a week and I’m really very excited about it. Because I’ll be getting a real salary. Like real sort of money. And trust me, we need it. We need it badly enough that I’m calling every day care on the block asking about part time availability for G and how quickly I can cart his cloth diapered butt over there.

And I don’t have one ounce of hesitation about it.

See, there came a point in our relationship (me and G) where mom just wasn’t as fun anymore. The sensory box was kind of where things ended. G needs way more stimulation that I can provide him on a daily basis and I’m happy to leave that to the professionals. He wants crap like creative water play and building shit and running around in masks. I just don’t have it in me.  And while G is doing his thing with smart kid people, I will actually have time to “work”.

And then I realized this: It’s happened. It’s really happened. I’m going to work and doing what I love. That’s the dream. That’s what Oprah always told me. Do what you love and it’s not work. Do what you love and you’ll be good at it. And that’s why I’m so excited to be working for the people at Babble and to working for myself on MODG (don’t worry I won’t forget about our little place here on the internet. We’re still  boys) and getting to do things like Listen to your Mother. This signifies me growing up and growing into something that is really me. Because me wasn’t a recruiter and me wasn’t in an office from 9-5 and me was happier than that.

And that’s why I’m more than OK with daycare now. Because I can proudly be a mom who is teaching G by example to do what you love for a lot or a little money. It makes all the difference in who you are. And who I am is…a writer?? Yeah, I still can’t really say that without giggling a little under my breath.

But B likes to say, who I am is working for Disney. BARF. Babble was just bought by Disney. Let’s just say I’m Pooh and Mickey’s #1 street enemy. So yes, B runs around singing M-I-C SEE YOU REAL SOON. And I say, I’ll see your ass handed to your face. Or something like that.

I’m looking forward to this next part of my life. I think I’m going to learn a lot more about being a mom and who I am as a non mom too. And I probably won’t worry so much about Hello Kitty porn. Will I put future baby #2 in daycare? Probably not for a while. I understand why people have to do it and they have all of my respect in the world, but I will move a mountain of rabid squirrels before I give that first year of my newborn’s life to someone else. I’m lucky because I have that choice.

And I’m lucky because I’m making a little dream happen.

And I’m lucky that you’re still reading this because the cheese level is at about a 9 right now.

XOXO

Happy Day MODG.

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{ 77 comments }

annie April 6, 2012 at 4:28 pm

Modg, congratulations! So excited you’ll be on Babble!

ElisaM April 6, 2012 at 4:33 pm

K-E-Y…Because we like you!

Theresa April 6, 2012 at 4:36 pm

Congrats on your new phase of momdom! We were fortunate enough to have my MIL watch Kirby for his first 16 months, but I’m so glad that he’s in daycare b/c they do tons of amazing things with him and he has lots of fun. It costs a little more to put him in a national chain with academic requirements, but after seeing the lower cost places, I think it’s worth it (ie: they let the kids watch a *lot* of TV and gave him junk food b/c it’s cheaper).

Andrea April 6, 2012 at 4:38 pm

I am so incredibly happy for you, I too am working on making my dream job a reality, slowly. Its a feat that not many people reach, so CONGRATULATIONS. And I have a good idea that G will be JUST fine!

Melanie April 6, 2012 at 4:39 pm

That’s amazing! You must be so happy. I am happy for you guys, and I don’t even know you.

Would it be super weird to ask what is in those pretty colorful jars on your window sill?

I don’t really care, my curiosity is much stronger than my (nonexistant) desire to appear normal.

MODG April 6, 2012 at 4:40 pm

It’s all the paint colors in our house. Pretty and good for touch ups.

michelle April 6, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Paint jars…freaking GENIUS! Congrats on the Babble gig. Looking forward to seeing you there!

Jessica April 6, 2012 at 4:43 pm

What an awesome opportunity! Congratulations! Well done, you.

mandie April 6, 2012 at 4:44 pm

Go, MODG! Congrats on the new gig and finding a balance that works for you and for G, too. I think I’m a better mom for working part time. I ditch the little people at the gym daycare, find a quiet corner, and have a few hours of NBR (non-baby-related) brain usage. And once a month, it rains money and I BLOW IT ALL. Mwahahahahahaha!

And sometimes? Working FULL TIME (or more) sounds really, really lucrative. Like right now, for example, when the 3 year old is in the basement screaming “WIPE MY BUTT!” and the 2 year old is upstairs yelling “I PEE IN MY CRIB!” Deargod. Better go.

Jen April 6, 2012 at 4:46 pm

So happy and excited for you – on so many levels! Happy that you will be on Babble, and excited that YOU are excited to be on Babble! And mostly, excited that you have come to this decision with time and thought and energy behind it (rather than out of necessity), knowing that you are doing what is best for both you AND G, and your family – and that it will make ALL of you super happy! G is one lucky little man to have had you all to himself this last year+, but now you get to do what you love and feel good that you are doing it without taking anything away from him. That makes all the difference…

I am anxiously awaiting the arrival of my own little “G” and am blessed with the opportunity to stay at home with him for the next year should I wish to (we’ll see how much adult stimulation I need, and how much I miss teaching by the time second semester rolls around for next year’s school year!). Your decision to pursue a career now away from G will serve as an example to him of strong, smart, independent women, of which his mom will of course, be the BEST example in his life! Best of luck to you as you start this new and exciting path…

K April 6, 2012 at 4:50 pm

Go MODG go! Hearty congratulations to you. PS: That learning tower picture is the CUTEST EVER.

Courtney April 6, 2012 at 4:50 pm

I am sooo jelly mama. My DREAM is to write for babble! Unfortunately, my little ole site has about 1/250 the subscriptions of yours. :( Boo to you for being funnier than me. That sounded bitchier than I intended. You rock girl!

MODG April 6, 2012 at 4:59 pm

Keep going. It took me 3 years to get here. When I first started I had ONE reader. It takes time and consistency.

Suburban Snapshots April 6, 2012 at 10:00 pm

It’s true. I was blogging for 5 years before NickMom found me just last April. I was floored. Persistence, build your audience, do your Facebook duties and in my case, write one funny list that goes viral overnight. Good luck to you!

Danielle @ Casa Bower April 6, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Congrats!
this made me feel all warm and fuzzy. We love our daycare where our munchkin goes and we can see the benefits that she is getting from the interaction with other tykes and other adults who challenge her. I find that I am a much more motivated mommy when I see what her daycare mom does {competitive jealousy perhaps?} and what we can do, and also that I love going to work each day doing my thang at my 9-5. I feel that is teaching her a valuable lesson as well.

Cheers!

Julie April 6, 2012 at 4:55 pm

That is sooo awesome! Huge congrats from a frequent reader! Looking forward to continuing your journey with you over at Babble as well.

Kristin April 6, 2012 at 4:56 pm

Congrats MODG!

What is G standing on in the photo? It seems like I might be able to get some dishes done with a crazy cool contraption like that!

MODG April 6, 2012 at 4:58 pm

It’s a Learning Tower. best invention ever. G “helps” with it.

Jessica B April 6, 2012 at 8:04 pm

Those Learning Tower people should give you some money… because by posting that picture you just got some mom’s excited about getting one…. its brilliant!!!!

Julie April 7, 2012 at 12:36 pm

And if by chance the proper tower is a little out of reach financially, here are the plans for anawesome alternative!
http://ana-white.com/2010/12/helping-tower.html
We had this built and painted for 150$, and it’s amazing!

Shannon April 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm

Thank you for this! I love my son but I’d lose my freaking mind spending all day doing toddler activities and he LOVES daycare. He has little friends and his teachers are super fun and creative and it makes me happy that he has bonds with adults outside our immediate family. I feel like I am a better mom to him because I have the time to pursue my own thing. I also feel like his days are more full of learning at daycare than I could ever provide because I am just not the teacher type.

Allie April 6, 2012 at 5:00 pm

Congratulations! I look forward to reading what you write on Babble.

kelly @Dare to be Domestic April 6, 2012 at 5:01 pm

CONGRATULATIONS! Seriously, this freaking rocks. I’m so excited to read more and to hear all about G’s adventures in daycare!!! Keep up the great work we’re all pulling for you girl! ox

Lindsay S April 6, 2012 at 5:01 pm

MODG-

I am so excited for you/bitter lol. I know you’ve worked really hard on this blog and I’m envious of how you’ve been able to figure out an arrangement for you and your family. I work with so many women who tell me they lovethe careers they had and gave everything up to have children. I don’t have kidsyet, but it’s definitely on the horizon, and the thought of never seeing adults again or not contributing financially stresses me the eff out. I’ve never read Babble before but I will def start now knowing that you’ll be there. Thanks for being a great example out there for all the bloggers that hope to do something more someday (if they work for it). G will be very proud someday :)

Morgan April 6, 2012 at 5:05 pm

Congratulations! There is something magical and empowering when you figure out how to be non-mom and mom all in one. It’s a lucky discovery, for sure, but magical nonetheless. Congrats again!

Jess April 6, 2012 at 5:09 pm

You’re an inspiration, Modg! You and G are both going to be so happy with this new change in your lives. Congrats from Austin, TX!

PsMamae April 6, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Love <3 Congratulations!
I am waiting to hear from the job of my dreams' people now. I hope they call me soon ;P

Lindsay S April 6, 2012 at 5:22 pm

MODG-

Thank you for sharing your news with us in thist post. I am bitter/excited lol. Excited because you’ve clearly been working on writing for a long time and putting so much into your blog that this is totally well-deserved. Bitter because I’m jealous that you have achieved an ideal situation for you and your family. I don’t have kids yet, but it’s definitely on the horizon and I am absolutely terrified about how to juggle career/finance/baby issues. I work with so many women who tell me that they had great jobs that they loved and they gave them up to have children and now 10 years later are just working again for the first times and it scares the living crap out of me. Thank you for inspiring all the bloggers out there who work to turn it into something more. I’ve never read Babble before, but I will definitely check it out now knowing that you will be there. G is going to be very proud of you someday :)

~L

Suburban Snapshots April 6, 2012 at 9:58 pm

Lindsay, it doesn’t have to be 10 years. You might go right back after 3 months. Your future kids would rather be raised by a happy, fulfilled mama than a frustrated, bored one. You’ll figure out what works for your family.

Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 6, 2012 at 5:36 pm

**Carlton Dance** for dreams coming true!

Megan April 7, 2012 at 5:43 am

My thoughts exactly!

One Ring to Rule Them All April 6, 2012 at 5:44 pm

Good on ya, gal. You making the right decisions for you is what it’s all about.

Genevieve April 6, 2012 at 6:17 pm

Congratulations! We did everything we could to make staying home happen — it just didn’t work. My husband’s business isn’t making enough in this economy and so I’m the breadwinner. It just about killed me to take her to daycare — we tried using family (everyone is 2 or more hours away) and me working from home part time. Did that for about a month and it just wasn’t working. That said, we found an amazing woman who has an in-home daycare and she and her sister watch the kids. They keep it small, usually 7 or fewer at a time. She has been doing this 25+ years. And she loves my daughter. So if I have to leave her somewhere, at least I know the ladies she spends her day with love her as much as any family member would, and I cling to the time I get with my daughter. I’m glad you realize how lucky you are, even though it is hard work to be home. I’m so happy for you, that you can work part time and embrace what your son needs too. May all mother’s do that! :)
Glad too that you are still going to be on here!!

Katie C April 6, 2012 at 6:31 pm

Congrats! That’s awesome! I didn’t have the opportunity to stay home with my son past the first 9 weeks so he’s been in daycare since then. I have to say, I absolutely love it! They do fun activities and he interacts with adults and peers all day! When I’m home on break (teacher) he looks at me around noon on the first day as if to say, “it’s just you and me huh? You’re boring!” G will be great!

carla April 6, 2012 at 6:59 pm

I never comment because I’m shy like that, but I’m coming out of the woodwork to say goooooOOO MODG! You deserve all good things, and I can’t wait to have two places to read your stuff!

Linnzi April 6, 2012 at 7:03 pm

That is wonderful! Oprah was right…so very happy for you:)

Claire April 6, 2012 at 7:10 pm

A big huge congrats to you. That sounds pretty dream-like to me; staying home for the first year and a (almost) half, then working part time while other people do the most demanding stuff with the baby. I hope your new job provides all kinds of fulfillment–I am sure it will!

betty April 6, 2012 at 7:18 pm

love it. congratulations!! yeah it takes awhile to get there, mentally. i had to go back at 16 weeks and we had a nanny in our house, which sounds spoiled, but i dont think that makes it any easier in some ways. but i knew you and G would get there, though, and i feel strangely proud. but this is just the next step for MODG, MODG.com etc, right? oh yeah and when can i expect the book?? jk. take your time. and enjoy all the moments in between… xo

Lara @ It's A Girl Thing! April 6, 2012 at 7:26 pm

I am extremely happy for you! I feel like I know you, like you’re just a girlfriend down the street, and I can honestly say that I am thrilled. This sounds like an excellent opportunity for you.

Lauren @ Turquoise & Gold April 6, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I am currently a stay-at-home-DOG-mom, and I can’t even deal with dropping the dogs off at the kennel… because, you know, the staff there won’t know the words to the breakfast song I sing to Abbey and Eleanor every morning. But congrats! I am excited to have another place on the internet to read your writing!

Heather April 6, 2012 at 8:15 pm

What a fabulous opportunity MODG! Can’t wait to see & read about you in both places! SO very excited for you :)

Shannon April 6, 2012 at 8:44 pm

We put Mackenna in daycare at 17 months – mainly bc I graduated and got a “real job” after my 7 yr college career but you are so right she was just at the point where she wanted/needed more than I could give her socially. I will warn you 9 months later her immune system is just now finally able to kick those pesky daycare germs butt!

Meaghan @ Bambino Mom April 6, 2012 at 9:31 pm

You said “Baby #2.”

Are you preggers?

Jk. So is baby #2 a distant-future thing, or will G and B2 be close in age? Nosey, maybe. But you having babies makes for good blog reading. :)

Suburban Snapshots April 6, 2012 at 9:56 pm

Very congratulations! When we had Anna I was freelancing and the electrician was working for himself, we were broke as a joke. But when she turned 18 months, despite money still being tight, we put her in daycare because frankly, we were boring the shit out of her. Best decision, despite a week of adjustment for the kid.

Becky Mochaface April 6, 2012 at 10:41 pm

Congratulations! That is so exciting.

Jell Jell @ I'll Sleep When They're Grown April 6, 2012 at 10:53 pm

That is so FUN. Color me slightly jealous at your success and impending blog job. You’ve got something special, so you should only giggle under your breath at calling yourself a writer because you wrote a fart joke. Because it’s funny. Good luck!

erinisabel April 7, 2012 at 12:39 am

SO excited to see you on Babble! Congratulations!

Lin April 7, 2012 at 12:54 am

Congratulations on the new Babble job!

Cheryl S. April 7, 2012 at 8:10 am

Congratulations!!! That’s wonderful!

And THANK YOU from a mom who had to put her precious girl in daycare at 4 months. You have NO IDEA how painful it is to hear people talk about how sending a kid to daycare is like sentencing them to the 9th circle of hell. G is going to have a great time, you are going to get time to work and everyone is going to be happy.

crobb April 7, 2012 at 9:46 am

wow. i really needed to hear this. after a year at home with my munch, i’ve been offered the job of a lifetime. i’ve had SO MUCH GUILT over what to do… take it, put him in daycare, stay a “mom”.. and though i haven’t made up my mind just yet, reading this makes me feel like not such an awful person after all for seriously considering the world of outside employment again.

i love appropriately timed posts and good things happening to good people.

sooo… “see ya’ real soon”

Nicole April 7, 2012 at 11:11 am

I almost cried at this post (which scared me, cause that’s a sign of being pregnant again!). I just figured out my work-mommy life balance and couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you; it’s the best!

Sarah van Loon April 7, 2012 at 12:07 pm

Beyond happy for you, MODG!! Congratulations: on your Babble job, the new opportunities that presents, and for finding a place (both in the real world, and in your heart/conscious) that brings you peace of mind, and is great for Gavin. Yay!! So happy to be ‘on this journey’ with you, and supporting you all the way. Can’t wait to see what you’ll be writing on Babble!! :)

Jen @ Caved In April 7, 2012 at 3:07 pm

So happy you found something you love! It wasn’t financially feasible for me to stay at home after we had our son but he stayed with a family friend for the first year who spoiled the pants off of him. Finally put him in real daycare at 13 months old and he freaking loves it! He even seems kinda bored when at home with just us. True, we don’t have a huge playground of Little Tike stuff and it’s just two big people and him. I also just needed that separation to remind myself that being a mom is not what defines me as a person. I love it more than anything but I think I might come to resent it if I did have to come up with ideas to entertain a super active 15 month old right now. The only thing is that he comes home covered in snot most days. His immune system is just finally getting adjusted to all those daycare germs. They’re real and the “experts” say your kid needs em. Whatever. Just get lots and lots of Boogie Wipes.

cassidy April 7, 2012 at 4:43 pm

i’m so happy you posted this. as a mother of a 5 year old i didn’t really have the stay at home choice her first year but a lot of my friends swore daycare off and it kind of made me feel like a “bad” mom…(even though now i know i was being a good mom in helping provide for her), i’m just really happy because i know a lot of people read your blog and this may help them in the daycare decision. thank you. and i’m proud of you (even though i don’t really KNOW you). and congrats on your new venture.

Becca April 7, 2012 at 5:25 pm

Why the Disney hate?

Casey @ The Baker Bee April 8, 2012 at 12:28 am

We put Eli in daycare 3 days a week (sorry, excuse me… “preschool”) at 15 months. Best decision ever. He has so much fun and learns things that I don’t have it in me to teach him. I work full time, but mostly at night, so before daycare I’d be at home with Bug during the day and then Hubby would be with him at night… except for the 2 days a week I actually work during the day, and then my mom would watch him. (We put him in school to give my momma a break.) Some days, I’m too exhausted to be teaching him the alphabet and colors and stuff… it’s all I can muster to build stuff out of legos after not getting home from work until midnight. Thanks to daycare, my almost-two-year old can sing the alphabet (kind of), count to five (for real) and is pretty good at sharing. He also takes killer naps thanks to school wearing him the F out.

Long winded comment, sorry. Good luck finding daycare!!

Casey @ The Baker Bee April 8, 2012 at 12:28 am

Oh, and also… CONGRATS on the Babble gig!!!

Courtney @ Life At Thirtysomething April 8, 2012 at 1:21 am

Congrats on your new job, lady! That’s so amazeballs to get paid to do something you love, like writing about your life and your kid on a big time parenting website. I’m so JEALS because I want the same thing to happen to me! It’s inspiring to see what’s happening to you because I’ve been following your blog since before you had G and it’s cool to see the progress you’ve made. Looking forward to seeing your new column on Babble. What will you be writing about, similar stuff as on MODG?

leslie April 8, 2012 at 8:47 am

CONGRATU-FREAKIN-LATIONS. That is so wonderful. So happy for you. You deserve it. :)

courtney April 8, 2012 at 10:08 am

Congrats! I am right there with you. I was stay at home with my first for 5 years. My second was 3 when I went to work for my husband (don’t vomit!) It is perfect, I can’t be fired! Make my own money and my kiddos come first. I always say the same thing, “I am lucky.”
But really, you are luckier. Your new career path sounds way more fun than answering phones and talking to idiot clients all day at your husband’s office (I have to be nice all day and not act put out when asked super dumb questions.)
And the Learning Tower was a LIFE saver at our house. Worth every penny.

Megan S April 8, 2012 at 11:40 am

Thank you for this post (and congratulations!) I just recently went back to work for my dream job and had to put my daughter in the D word. I was feeling guilty for being OK with it, but in 2 weeks there, my daughter started walking, signing and speaking phrases. It’s been amazeballs and I kind of want to marry our child care provider so she can’t escape.

Amy Mac April 8, 2012 at 11:43 am

Way to go MODG! I think you’ll find that it can be just as rewarding to be a working mom. We could have afforded for me to stay home with J financially, but I couldn’t have afforded mentally. While it was very hard at first to leave my wee man at daycare, they do all kinds of fun shit with the babies that I never would have dreamed of. I now work harder and then leave that work at the office because home time is OUR time. And I’m a better mom for it.

Can’t wait to read you on Babble!

Gini April 8, 2012 at 10:28 pm

I just discovered Babble and am kind of addicted, so this is extra awesome news! Congratulations!

Elizabeth April 9, 2012 at 9:01 am

Yay for a new job! So excitin for you! And don’t worry about G-baby…he’ll love his play time!

Mrs. Newlywed Giggles April 9, 2012 at 9:23 am

Congratulations!!!! So cool!

Ginger April 9, 2012 at 10:07 am

this is the best of all worlds for G-
my daughter is 14 mos and has been home with dad because I had the same reservations about “D.” however, she really needs some social interaction now. unfortunately when we put her in daycare when she’s ~2 it will be 9 hours a day. that kills me. your part-time daycare arrangement is PERFECT for you and G. congrats!

Babra April 9, 2012 at 11:11 am

Super excited for you. It gives me hope to see how you have turned this into a money making venture that works for you. And I know you probably have enough ass-vice in your life, but I would be really careful about bashing your employer and its most symbolic character on your blog. People have been fired for less.

Shannon April 9, 2012 at 1:18 pm

Can’t wait to read you on Babble. Congrats!

Sara April 9, 2012 at 2:35 pm

This is so exciting. You’re living the dream! I’m just starting out with blogging/writing more because of a very encouraging Creative Writing teacher I had last semester. In the eternal words of Hall and Oates- You make-a my dreams come true.

Gina April 9, 2012 at 5:02 pm

Good for you! I just recently got over my mom guilt and realized I like my job and I like working. And my daycare provider is much more fit to provide the kind of part-or-all-day learning and social environment than I ever will or want to be able to. You hit the nail on the heads, too – we’re teaching our little ones they can really live ‘the dream’.

Stephanie April 9, 2012 at 6:38 pm

Congratulations! I am reading this from work. I am one of the lucky ones to have my dream job already (well, I love my job, so pretty close). It’s a one-of a kind position that I helped create….BEFORE my 11 month old daughter was even conceived. We get 4.5 month off, paid maternity leave, and they supported me in my “suggestion” to go part-time for my first semester back (I work at a college). So at 4.5 months I had to put her in daycare in order to retain this job. She was eight months old when I went back full time and I was sick over it for weeks before it actually happened. Also, I am the only mother I know who works full-time so it was the next notch on the belt of judgement (your birth, breastfeeding, work, daycare vs. nanny…it’s a never-ending list) and I didn’t have any support from anyone who was doing it too so it felt extra hard. All my mommy friends got to meet for coffee and go to the park while I had to be in meetings and DESIGN NEW BUILDINGS…..anyway, I’m cool (yet EXTREMELY jealous). The point is that while I do admit that I had a feeling in my stomach when I dropped her off as a tiny babe, I am very, very, VERY pleased with my decision now. She is super social, curious, confident, and friendly. Things are constantly changing at her “school” so that it always feels new and interesting. At almost a year, she is always totally immersed in what she is doing by the time I head out the door to leave her in the morning. It is in daycare that she learned to sip from a sippy cup, wear pigtails, taste a raisin, touch bubbles, and sleep on a mat instead of in a crib. At this age, I am certain she is much better off than if she was with me all day because I like to read blogs, and she doesn’t.

P.S. Being a stay at home mom is for sure the hardest job in the world. Hooray for all moms!

P.S.S. I too am a hippie, home-birth and all. Sister’s gonna be a midwife. Weird how things work out.

P.S.S.S. Not all daycare is the same. Sleeping in swings is a no-no. TV is a no-no. The babies should have outside time as much as possible, and have free reign of the space they occupy, all the time. Strapping them in to seats and such is a huge red flag that there aren’t enough resources.

Ashley April 10, 2012 at 12:36 pm

have you seen the movie Eddison’s Day? about little boy at Montessori school? Well, this pic reminds me of the movie bc the little boy is washes the dishes on his learning tower. So cute.

the Laotian Commotion April 10, 2012 at 8:13 pm

Oh, I cried and cried the first few weeks (first 16 of ‘em) when I went back to work PART-TIME. Part-time as in dinking around working two days a week.

The only D word we utilize to watch the kid when I work is Dada. We made a really hard decision to do everything possible to stay away from D. For both money and ugly crying issues.

In regards to your recent post: “everything happens for a reason.” I’ll buy you a sorrow drink if I see ya ;)

Chic 'n Cheap Living April 11, 2012 at 12:09 pm

I love cheese level 9. I do hear from friends that motherhood isn’t rose petals and tickle fights and I love that you just keep it real (I’m not there yet, still stuck in the fashion days when we first blog met).
Anyway, isn’t motherhood and rearing children also an evolution? We become who we said we wouldn’t, we realize things, and evolve.

Do what you love and make sure your loved ones feel loved and the rest hopefully muddles along.

xoxo,
Chic ‘n Cheap Living

Katyx April 11, 2012 at 8:48 pm

Daycare rocks. Our little overlord is learning mad social skilz. we didn’t have a choice cuz we both work and nannies just freaked me out (plus were way more expensive). He did bring home a lot of colds in the first six months there, but he should be bulletproof by the time he hits kindergarten.

Dawn April 18, 2012 at 9:21 am

Yowzahz! Congrats to you and your family! Total amazeballs that things are working out for the best…dream job, the D word, etc. I am so JEALS! (but in a good way) I had to go back to work when my daughter was 16 weeks. I was sick over it for weeks beforehand and after. She is now 19 months and stays at home with my dad. I know we are totally blessed to be able to have grandpa taking care of her, but I can’t shake the urge that it should be me. I still cry a little every now and then. Plus, it’s no dream situation with the paycheck-giver, so…makes it infinitely harder. It is probably time she does do the D thing though, I know she needs much more stimulation than we can provide at home. So we’ll see.

Anyway…congrats for working hard and reaching your dreams…you are an inspiration for those of us who are still trying to get there!

Bryn @ Away at Home Mom July 21, 2012 at 2:36 pm

You need to stop stealing my dreams and then living them out. I’m happy for you though – the world needs more MODG!

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