Despite being selfish and a fame whore and obsessed with appearances, I have an unhealthy amount of empathy. This is something we discovered in counseling after I brought up the deep hole in my heart that I feel for the grapes that get thrown away without being eaten. I just feel like they’ve never lived their true grape destiny. That was the first (and not last) time I got side eye from my counselor. “Safe Place” my ass. So when I really read all of the comments from women with problems from the breastfeeding post, I called off the paparazzi from meeting me at the grocery store and I decided to write this instead.
If there is ONE thing I’m happier about than being famous, it’s the community of commenters that came together to support breastfeeding women with titty troubles. I know how hard it can be when you’re in the thick of cluster feeding, and you JUST want the pain to stop, or the baby to stop farting, or the kid to go to sleep. So I wanted to address some of the questions that were asked in the comments. Because I had them too and I’m sure others out there do also. And also, I wanted to draw another picture of boobs. So here you go:
Wow. I needed that post. Just had my baby about 3 weeks ago and breastfeeding has started to suck due to super sore nipples and mastitis…ugh. It’s been tempting to quit but like you I’m determined to keep going…so THANK YOU for this post!!!
Elle, I’m bummed for you that you had mastitis. That’s about as bad as it can get. I’m proud of you for sticking with it. The good news is, you’ve seen the dark side and you’re still squirting. Hooray for that. The sore nipples go away, I promise. One thing that is always recommended in my breastfeeding group is Jack Newman’s All Purpose Nipple Cream. I haven’t used it but people swear by it. You need a prescription for it though. Squirt on sister.
Modg, this post is awesome! Can people go to boobfeeding group while they’re pregs to get a head start on making friends? Or does the boob-tenant have to already be moved in?
Good question. I wish I would have gone to this group before I was pregnant. I wish I would have stopped by a group in college when my biggest concern was if Pikapp or KDR was having a social that night. College MODG had her head up her drunk ass. Anyway… I’m sure that my group would welcome someone with open arms who was interested in breastfeeding while they were preg. Find a group and give the leader a call.
It is my first night home with my new daughter. She has been on my boobs for five consecutive hours. In between sobbing silently so as not to wake my husband who goes back to work tomorrow, I found this latest post and was able to giggle. Through tears, but still… Improvement. Send me sleeping baby dust and more posts to keep me sane!
Hi hi. Night two at home with the second coming of don’t put me down disease–milk is in and we are trying for every three hours… My mom is now here to help–god bless that woman. We are supplementing with some formula after each feed because of so few dirty diapers and the peds advice, and we are going to the ped tomorrow for a weigh, etc. Thanks ladies–helps to read comments and advice, especially in the middle of long lonely sleepless nights… Ugh soo tired.
Hi Meg. I can tell you based on my experience and so many others that I know that cluster feeding and the constant non stop sucking is very normal. It’s comforting for a tiny baby. If I didn’t let G suck his little heart out through 3-4 episodes of RHONY (how I kept time) he would lose his baby mind. I know you’re seeing a ped but have you seen a lactation consultant? In my experience they have very differing opinions on things like this. If you have access to a scale (baby scale preferably), weigh the baby, feed the baby, then weigh the baby. This will give you peace of mind to know how much she is getting. Poop is hard to measure by. Some babies just poop less than others. Same goes for husbands. And THOSE are some farts that keep you up at night. Good luck Meg.
THE KID HATES BOTTLES. He has been given bottles before, we’ve given him one on occasion the whole time. Now, not so much, and, like I said, school starts in a month, and flashing high school students in order to nurse a baby during class is frowned upon. We were at the lactation consultant’s today (which is why this post really hit home for me), and she gave us some pointers, but the kid is raising his tiny middle finger in defiance of the silicone imposter. We’ve tried 7 different types (Avent, Medela, Dr Brown’s, Tommee Tippee, Playtex Ventaire, BreastFlow, MAM). Some brands would be accepted a few times, but not anymore.
I’ve read a lot of junk online about how to get him to take a bottle, spoken to a professional, read books, talked to friends, etc. I’m not the one who’s trying to feed him and I don’t want to starve it out of him (Dr said it’ll give him a negative attitude towards feeding). Does anyone out there in MODGland have any ideas?
Ugh I’m SO sorry you’re going through this. G still won’t take a bottle. That kid is a sick little genius. He only takes it straight from the tap. I KNOW YOUR PAIN. I’ve tried every position, every bottle, every time of day, every song and dance and nothing. Now this will piss you off, but some kids just don’t take the bottle. I can think of 3 babies in my breastfeeding group off the top of my head who just refused.
Now, you’re going back to work. Sigh… Have you tried putting something else in the bottle, like some pear juice? It may get him interested to suck a little. That’s how we got G to take a cup with a straw. Good luck and let me know if you figure it out.
To those of you who are pregnant or have a tiny baby, GIVE THAT KID ONE BOTTLE A DAY LIKE YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. Because it sort of does. Unless you want to spend one year not attending weddings or vacations or power hours.
Ladies what is the best advice for being able to have a alcoholic beverage and breastfeeding, in all seriousness when I have my baby I still want to be able to enjoy a glass or wine or beer on occasion, but I also want to breastfeed, can I do both?
Denis, I just talked to my group about this. YES you can do both. I have at least one glass of wine a night. I follow the rule that if you feel ok, you’re fine to feed. Here’s what you have to remember: the baby isn’t getting straight up booz. Your milk alcohol content is the same as your blood alcohol content. A friend of a friend did a study on this and found that fresh squeezed orange juice has a booz content of .09. The legal drunk limit is .08. So if you were legally drunk, that’s still less alcohol going into your baby than if you were to give them fresh squeezed OJ. Now, I’m not saying go do 4 mind erasers in a mini skirt like a slore. But I am saying that it’s fine to have a drink or two. Those Euros do way worse. Where my Euros at?
If you as readers have extra help for these women, please chime in. And if you have questions or issues, comment with them as well and I know my awesome group of readers will help you out.
Like I said in my first post, breastfeeding is hard work. It takes other women to show you what to do and tell you that everything is totally fine.
I don’t do a whole lot of good things other than promote Asians and Full House. But I hope this can go on my “YOU HELPED OUT. NEATO” list.
Boobs for all and all for boobs,